Parenting

A child is an entity by itself and needs to build his/her own identity in the society. Parents’ role is to provide the right environment so that he/she can tap his/her highest potential and bloom into a beautiful being. A child is not a possession to fulfill parents’ wish list; or someone to be flaunted, compared or burdened under the pressure of our competitive environment.

To quote Swami Vivekananda, “Like a plant, a child grows by his own inner power only naturally. As parents & teacher we need to provide the right environment for growth and remove the obstacles as they appear.

Often as parent we feel, we are doing so much, providing for all our child’s need (food, clothes, house, education, holidays etc. ) then why is he still so adamant to the point of insolence; at the same time there are children from very meager background who grow up to be wonderful human beings. What happened here?

A child needs love, affection (emotional and physical), attention, appreciation, protection but most importantly understanding, even over basic needs like food, clothing and shelter! Surprised? Watch this video to know more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_t9O5MgisM

As parents we have to observe his/her natural inclination & interest and encourage instead of control it; every child has his/her own innate potential and will gravitate to bring out his/her best; however, if that inclination is not encouraged or any inhibition, fear is instilled due to a certain circumstance or social conditioning, the natural propensity is restricted. As we are dealing with tender hearts, we have to be patient and compassionate.

A child is learning from their parents or any other care giver around at the time of their growth! Parents have to conduct themselves in a way they expect their children to behave towards them & others and adapt the qualities they want to see in their child as children have fertile minds and they imitate. Parents are requested not to use vulgar language or the use of harsh words in front of their children.

Physical expression of affection is key to child development. Whenever a child is crying, he may not be hungry but wants to be held and caressed. As a child grows up, parents often feel if we respond to a child’s tantrum by positive touching, we may spoil the child but often, affectionate touch and explaining can help to resolve the problem much quickly. Please read more on “importance of touching in child development”:http://www.livestrong.com/article/508221-the-influence-of-touch-on-child-development/

Like we go for medical check-up, visiting a child psychologist at regular intervals is important for early detection of any anxiety, fear or depressive syndrome.